I’m starting to consider Fridays to be deep thought day on the blog.
Okay… maybe I’ve only had one real deep thought that came to mind for a Friday post, but regardless. I have another today!
I thought it might be a good time to talk a little bit about long distance relationships. I mean, why not? And that’s a little deeper of a conversation than my Whole30 and gym sessions. Or at least, I hope so.
Anyways, as many of you have probably realized by now (or read in my About Me page), my boyfriend is in the military, and has been literally the entire time we’ve been in a relationship. In other words, I’ve been in a long distance relationship for ages.
(New Year’s Eve ’09)
We just rounded the corner on year 3 back in November though. It sometimes FEELS like ages, especially right now since ol’ boyfriend is deployed, making the distance a whole lot farther between us. Remember my many care packages I’ve been sending since the end of September? I was no math major, but I’m pretty sure the trek from D.C. to Afghanistan is a lot further than my usual commute down to Florida to see James when he’s not on a deployment.
So in other words, I’m becoming an old hat at this long distance thing.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that you have to be a good communicator. The phone? It’s your new best friend. Prior to entering this relationship, I shunned the telephone. I still hate talking on the phone, unless you’re my mother or grandparents. Or my boyfriend, but that took a VERY long time of getting used to. I’ve always been more of a face to face or write it down sort of person.
Eventually they want to hear your voice more than every few weeks, and not just your witty email banter (or maybe I just have the speaking voice of an angel, I’m not sure).
You will probably end up traveling quite a lot, as well. Employees at Reagan National Airport here in D.C. have become familiar faces. I recognize flight attendants on my flights now.
At least in my situation, it was a lot more feasible for me to travel than James, so I have done the lion’s share. I haven’t minded at all, but if you’re about to embark on your own long distance relationship journey, know it can be exhausting and costly.. and it helps to have a flexible work environment. 🙂
Being in a long distance relationship has also thrown some new words into my vernacular… words like “patience” and “flexibility” and “what’s Delta’s 1-800 number?” That’s also all associated with being the girlfriend of a Service member, but it definitely applies all-around. There is a whole lot of delayed gratification that comes along with being long distance, and it forces the question of whether or not a relationship is worth the heave-ho of maintaining.
It is 1000% doable, and possible to develop and grow as a couple regardless of the miles, but you have to be fully committed to that person. Otherwise (in my opinion) you’re wasting each other’s time.
And seriously being patted-down by TSA way more times than is necessary. 😉
I’m thanking my lucky stars that our distance will be ending this spring!
And now it’s time to eat some faux oats and get to work! TGIF!
Are you or have you ever been in a long distance relationship before? If you’re in one, do you agree with my observations?