It’s got me to thinking a lot about friendship and, of course, love. I’m such a sucker.
But friendship! The bride, Jess, and I became friends just two years ago when I first moved back to California from D.C. She had gone to high school with my best friend from college, who virtually introduced us before I had even boarded that one-way flight to SoCal. Jess welcomed me into San Diego and her life without batting an eyelash, taking me in sight unseen into her friendship circle.
There’s something to be said for someone who can open their life and heart to new people, even when we’re adults and already have a complete social circle.
From our very first meeting, I knew Jess and I would be good friends (probably because we both really like snacks + wine….), and in such a short timespan, she’s transformed from a stranger in my new city to one of my very best friends. I think that’s remarkable. Corny, I know, but being an adult is hard. I hear this time and again from friends, especially who’ve moved to new cities or started over; without a safety net like school or childhood bonds, it can be lonely and difficult to find true friendship as a grown-up.
And by the way, isn’t that one of the greatest parts of having amazing women in your life? Excuse me – I mean squad, because that’s the word of the year, right? But seriously. I think that’s just what happens – they have the opportunity to bring the extraordinary people in their lives and fold them into yours.
It’s cheesy, but it’s true.
We need the good vibes, and the people who perpetuate that positivity in our lives. Who see who we are and don’t push us to be something else. Who think we’re incredible as ourselves, and want to support us in becoming even better versions.
We need to surround ourselves with people who are true and kind, and hone in on that authenticity.
Too often we feel like we have to allow negative people to take up space in our lives or in our hearts just because they’ve been there for a long time, or because others think they’re terrific. If someone’s not bringing out your brightest, then you don’t need them.
Goodness attracts goodness. Love attracts love.
Not science? My amazing wedding dancing skills. 😉
Happy weekend, folks. Have some wine, k? xo